Grief and Loss

This can’t be real. This can’t be happening. This feels like a really terrible dream but you can’t seem to wake up. It feels like drowning. The waves of grief come at such a fast pace it feels like you can barely swim. Why are these waves so big? And why are they coming so fast? You can’t seem to catch a break or catch your breath.

You think about that trip to Greece you wanted to take together but never got to.  Or that cabin in the mountains you were going to rent. They were supposed to meet your kids someday. And when you think about all the future plans that will never happen another wave comes crashing in. And again you can’t breath.

There are small moments when life starts to feel normal but then you want to call your loved one to tell them the good news or to vent about your bad day and you remember that you can’t call them because they aren’t here anymore. And another grief wave comes crashing in.

You didn’t feel prepared. You still don’t The loss cuts so deep that you feel absolutely gutted. Like someone tore out your heart and stomped on it. How can this be happening? It is not fair. They were not supposed to die. Not yet anyway. 

Who are you going to call for guidance or help? Who will be that shoulder to cry on? They were always that person for you. No one can ever fill the hole that has been left in your life and in your heart. 

Everyone says time heals all wounds, but that does not seem to be true. If it were true, why does this still hurt so bad?

You have been through hard stuff before but nothing compares to this. This feels so big and overwhelming its hard to imagine living life without your loved one. 

The things you used to care about, getting the good job, what car you drive, all seem so trivial now. None of that seems to matter anymore.

You see other people walking down the street, smiling and laughing and carrying on their lives like nothing happened. Don’t they know your world is crashing down around you? How can their world still be turning when everything in yours has screeched to a halt?

You feel alone. You don’t want to talk to your friends about your loss because you don’t want to make them sad. You have been strong for everyone around you but the facade is starting to crack. You don’t know how to do this. You feel lost. 

Every person’s grief is unique and deeply personal. No one else had your exact relationship with your loved one. 

Grief Counseling

Grief counseling is not about getting “over it” or “letting go” of your loved one. It’s about walking side by side with your grief without letting it take over everything you are. It’s about strengthening the container so you can hold the grief rather than the grief holding and consuming you.

Grief counseling is not about making the grief go away. It’s about giving you the tools to live your life in a functional and healthy way that honors your loss and your loved one. 

We would be honored to walk the journey with you.